Our life is all-inclusive, and our world is complicated, so our trouble and stress will become more. We often encounter this situation: a friend asks you to go out for fun, after the routine greetings, your topic will probably turn to the heavy work load. Your friend and you may complain incessantly and a happy afternoon is ruined. The dissatisfaction accumulated in one’s heart is perhaps due to the stubbornness. Everybody has one side of stubbornness, which is hard to change when it rages.
The loss of the sense of humor is a sign of stubbornness. Suppose you have quarreled with your companion. Another person comes over and makes a joke on you, but you rage against him and shout at him. Joking is sort of rest and relaxation in life. Your inability to sense the humor and getting angry because of your bad temper show that you have lost your sense of humor utterly. You should realize that it is your stubbornness that makes trouble.
It also shows your stubbornness by that you cannot cooperate with others. A lot of work attributes to cooperation, and the power of the group should not be ignored. No matter how bad is a person in your eyes, you cannot neglect his competence. Everyone will play his role at his own position. Your stubbornness blinds your eyes and obscures the fact. You should pay attention to this point.
Your stubbornness makes nothing satisfy you. You believe that everything should be perfect. You assess others with “not so satisfactory” because you thing yourself is the most excellent. So I should say that do not always pursue the perfect stubbornly. Can you feel delight when everything around you is defective?
Stubbornness is inevitable to everyone. Sometimes it is our own fault, and because we want to push the duty to others we criticize them. There is no doubt that we should apologize. Even if you win with your toughness, you will still suffer a lot of pain. Sometimes it is others’ fault, but we should try to communicate with them and see the issues from another angle. Making compromise does not mean you are weak. Instead it indicates your tolerance. So we should learn to abandon our stubbornness and free ourselves.
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It is human nature to criticize on others when something goes wrong. Different people have different personalities and tastes, so it is easy to have divergence. But most of the time, we can avoid these divergence through tolerance and communication. Once Dale Carnegie has mentioned that, it is easier to make a million dollars than to put a word into the English language. The way we transfer our views can make a big difference on the result. There is no need to emphasize more on this point. Just as what you have said, keep away from stubbornness and free ourselves. Try to be a humorous man and bring happiness to the people around you.
ReplyDeleteWill be good to keep an open mind and be willing to learn
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